Getting back to life after having a baby is by no means easy. But, with some help, you can rediscover the woman you were in the mother you are.
Getting your body back
There seems to be a lot of pressure to get back into shape right after having a baby. While it’s a good idea to exercise and eat healthily, be patient and remember that most women take at least two years to get back into shape.
Get some me-time
While it’s unnecessary to have your nails done every week, washing your hair and putting on a bit of make-up will certainly make a difference to how you feel. Make an effort with your body, even if it’s putting your baby in a pram and going for a walk — it’s enjoyable and good for your sex drive!
Buy new clothes
Instead of buying a whole new wardrobe, buy a few garments that are a size or two bigger, but that you can still feel sexy wearing until you get back into shape. Make the most of your curves and bigger breasts while you have them!
Be kind to yourself
Take note of all the things you need to do in a day, from working and cooking to looking after a baby and breastfeeding. Accept that you can’t do everything and don’t be shy to ask for help so that you can have that much needed, well-deserved bit of ‘me time’ too.
Finding the right support
Don’t be shy to ask for support from your partner, friends and family. Whether it’s asking your husband or sister to do the shopping, or your mother-in-law to prepare a meal for the family once a week, take advantage of any help you can get that will make it easier for you to get back to life after having a baby.
You may also benefit from seeking professional help from:
- A nutritionist or dietitian if your eating habits have become poor and you’re struggling to lose weight.
- A personal trainer. Knowing the right exercises and having someone to help motivate you along the way will make getting into shape more focused and fun.
- A spiritual teacher. Having a baby can change your view on life and you may find peace in discussing your feelings with someone who has a deeper spiritual understanding.
- A sexologist. If, after a few months, your sex life seems to be going nowhere slowly and your relationship with your partner is suffering, it’s worthwhile for you and your partner to consult with an expert and put some spice back into your sex life.
- An educational psychologist. We all come from different family structures and going to parenting talks and workshops will help to resolve common causes of conflict when it comes to making decisions about raising your children.
What about my career?
We are trained to go to university and get a job, so being a mom is often something we try to squeeze in. Life after having a baby is tough and you have to work out a system that is going to work for you. You may decide that you want to work from home, just until your baby is a little bit older and can go to a crèche or school. When we are happy at home and we have our hearts in order, everything else follows from that. If we try to get our work in order and squeeze in the home and the baby and the heart at the same time, that’s when it can all come crashing down.