1. Not being in the mood for sex
No one feels like sex 24/7. ‘Sexual desire does not run like a tap from puberty onwards,’ explains relationship counsellor Anna Cole. If you’re not in the mood, don’t feel obligated — he wouldn’t be happy if he thought you were only doing it because you felt you had to. Instead, make sure you keep affection levels healthy.
Read more: Natural ways to increase your libido.
2. Plonking your kids in front of the TV on a Saturday morning
You’ve been running around after your children all week: now’s your chance for a leisurely breakfast, or even — gasp! — a lie-in. And what better baby-sitter than two hours of kids’ TV? Make the most of it — we recommend a freshly made smoothie, croissants, a huge cup of coffee and the Saturday papers. Aaah…
3. Your house not being immaculate all the time
The best-selling fridge magnet in the world says: ‘Only dull women have immaculate homes’ — so don’t be fooled by your friends’ super-tidy houses. We all have last-minute tricks (clothes under beds, toys behind curtains, etc.). Your ‘tidy’ friends just saw you coming!
4. Buying that impractical top on impulse
Any psychologist worth their salt will tell you that a life without a bit of spontaneity is unhealthy. They’ll also tell you that shopping is a great way to release those lovely happy hormones, endorphins. So what if the top is a bit more revealing than you’d normally go for, or you haven’t got a special party coming up? If it makes you feel good, then it’s an excellent-value purchase.
5. Not contacting your best friend in weeks
It takes two to talk, and she obviously hasn’t made much effort to get in touch, either. Anyway, the best friendships are the ones you can pick up where you left off — no matter how long it’s been — and the time apart just gives you more to gossip about. Plus, she’d hate to think you were only calling her because you felt you ought to. You know she’s there — give her a call when the time’s right.
6. Enjoying a glass of red wine in the evening
At the end of a busy day, we all need to unwind — you could be reaching for the cigarettes, or a box of cream-filled doughnuts, so having a nice, relaxing glass of red wine hardly seems naughty at all. You should know by now that red wine, in moderation, has been medically proven to help prevent coronary heart disease. If that’s not a reason not to feel guilty, we don’t know what is!