A lot of moms are overworked, overtired and, well, over it.
In fact, the Working Mothers Expo surveyed over 1000 South African moms and found that 30% of working moms feel like they can’t cope with day-to-day demands about half of the time.
The problem is, if you don’t take care of yourself, you can’t take care of anyone else either. Take our quick quiz to find out if you’re putting yourself last, then read our tips on how to start looking after yourself.
5 ways to stop putting yourself last
1. Say what you want
In order to change the way things are, you have to start speaking up for yourself. So, rather than listening to what everyone else wants and going out of your way to please them, tell them what would make you happy and put the load on them for a change.
2. Stop enabling
It’s one thing to help someone in need, but if you’re taking on things you know they’re capable of doing, stop right now! If you continue to do everything for everyone, they’ll keep expecting that of you and start piling more on your plate.
3. Take action
So you’ve been going on about trying out that yoga class for months and you’re in such dire need of a haircut, your split ends look like candy floss. Instead of wasting time beating yourself up for not doing these things for yourself, why don’t you just go and do them? It really is that easy.
4. Make time
It may feel like there’s never a spare minute in the day, but everyone can carve out some me-time, if they really want to. You can delegate tasks at work, ask for help with the kids from family or friends, get him to cook dinner a couple of nights a week and hire a cleaner. If it buys you a few hours to yourself, it’s more than worth it.
5. Be selfish
Women are programmed to feel guilty, which always makes it very hard to say no when friends and family ask things of us. But learning to put ourselves first on occasion is essential for our own happiness and well-being.
Rather than feeling bad for not dropping everything to run to their aid, look at it this way: if you get the time you need for yourself, you’ll be a much nicer person for them to be around when you do see them.