1. Don’t compare your relationship to other people’s
Focus on your own issues and you’ll feel much less pressure. Every relationship is different, some conventional, others less so — whatever works for you is best.
2. Do take time to communicate
Ranting has a bad effect on a relationship, but keeping quiet is just as damaging. If you’ve got a problem, you need to talk about it calmly together. Don’t let a negative situation boil up.
3. Do say ‘please’ and ‘thank you’
Ever feel taken for granted? Chances are sometimes he does, too. Put some effort into appreciating what you do for each other, even if it’s giving him a hug for making dinner.
4. Do embrace intimacy — in all its forms
Intimacy isn’t just about sex. It’s about eye contact, smiles and touches, too.
5. Don’t stop change
Over the years you’re both going to change, so give each other space to do this. It’s okay that you have different interests. Don’t think that you have to do everything together.