A recent study found that 18% of married people can go without kissing their partner for an entire week, with 40% admitting to kissing for just five seconds or less when getting intimate. GASP! If kissing’s become something you just don’t do, we’re here to (gently) encourage you to do more smooching!
So why, exactly, should you be making kissing a priority in your relationship?
- Lips have so many nerve endings that send a flood of messages to the brain. When you’re enjoying a lengthy smooch, your heart starts pumping, blood vessels dilate and your blood pressure comes down. So kissing is our top underrated relationship secret and a great health boost, too.
- Besides all that, it also feels pretty good, right? That’s thanks to the ‘love hormone’, oxytocin, that’s released when you lock lips. It’s also the same hormone that’s released when you have an orgasm, which explains why locking lips makes us so happy.
- Kissing is incredibly intimate — after all, your lips are your most exposed erogenous zone.
- Having a smooch increases your levels of the neurotransmitter dopamine, which is responsible for controlling craving and desire.
- Kissing makes you feel held and connected, so whether you and your partner kiss can be a good indicator of where your relationship is.
- Research shows that married or cohabiting couples who kiss frequently argue less, understand each other better, exercise more, are more able to cope with stressful tests and even have lower cholesterol levels! Which explains why it’s a relationship secret you need to know!
If your relationship has gone a bit flat, kissing might just be the thing that rekindles the spark. If you haven’t kissed for a while, lead up to it gently. Talk to your partner: do they miss it? What do they miss? What do they remember about their early days of kissing? What would it be like to reconnect like that again? And what’s stopping you both now?
You never know, it’s the relationship secret that could change your life!